See you at the ice cream shop!

I love being a part of the bedtime routine at Halee’s house.

Halee is my grand-niece. My niece’s first born. My sister’s first grandchild. We are all together tonight — three generations, reading stories together on the carpet in Halee’s room.

Pyjamas on. Check. (She removes the pjs from the hangers and happily demonstrates to Mimi, my sister, that she is a “big girl” and she can dress herself.)

Teeth brushed. Check. (She proudly exhibits her electric toothbrush and shouts with glee, “It’s watermelon toothpaste!”)

Hair brushed. Check. Check. (Along with brushing her own soft locks, she offers to brush ours.)

Halee will be three in three weeks. When it comes to her bedtime routine, however, it’s like she’s been executing it for years. She performs each step like a well-choreographed dance. 

And that dance leads into her favourite part: reading stories. Three stories, to be exact. And with Mimi, me and her mom in a circle around her, Halee makes her choices without hesitation: Going on a Bear Hunt!; Yes Day!; and, Bea goes for a check-up (a social story about a visit to the doctor).

We each take our turn reading. Halee whispers “swishy, swashy,” repeating the refrain as the family travels through the grass on its bear hunt. Halee squeals with laughter when the mom says “Yes!” to the boy asking to have pizza for breakfast. Halee “reads” the words (which she has committed to memory after hearing the book for the umpteenth time) when her mother pauses on each page of Bea’s visit to her doctor. Halee points to the band-aid that covers a needle’s jab over Bea’s leg and says sympathetically, “And there’s the green band-aid for her boo boo!” 

When the final page is flipped, Halee knows all too well the ‘finale” to this evening’s dance. She flits from adult to adult like a butterfly from flower to flower, giving a kiss, a hug, and a “good night!”.

As she leans in for her kiss, she adds a line to the repertoire that is new to me.

“See you at the ice cream shop tonight!” 

I pause. She, however, doesn’t miss a beat.

“What flavour are you getting?” she asks. “I’m getting chocolate with sprinkles!”

“It’s strawberry for me!” I reply, wrapping my arms around her.

And with that, we say good night and I go to bed with more joy in my heart knowing that she will see me in her dreams.

“Can we get ice cream?” — From, Yes Day! by Amy Krouse Rosenthal

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  1. Heidi Allum Avatar

    Halee is one lucky almost 3 year old to have so much love and adoration! The ice cream shop in your dreams is such a fun, sweet final moment. I love how you took the time to slice and remember this time with your grand-niece. It brings back all of the feels for when my own kids were smaller (though one still, even though he is 10, has a huge bedtime routine, and honestly, I wouldn’t chnage it).

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  2. Anita Ferreri Avatar

    Halee is one lucky girl, but your story reminds me of the essential power of a community of aunties (or other strong and close people) surrounding children as they grow and start to make sense of the world. My own children were lucky enough to have them. It is one of my greatest honors to be an auntie and a great auntie to children who know I am always in their corner and who hold me in their heart!

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  3. evarkaplan Avatar

    I wish every child in the world got this kind of love! It’s so important and wonderful. I also love bedtime with my grandchildren. They are not quite as disciplined as your grandniece, but we try. I love cuddling up with them and reading together. Sometimes, I turn off the lights and tell them stories. They get to pick the place and the characters. Usually that’s when they fall asleep as with stories they always want more and more! It’s such a sweet time. Hailee sounds delicious!

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  4. Lainie Levin Avatar

    There’s so much to love about this post. I love the relationship you have with Halee. I love how much joy she takes in the routine and ritual at night. And I love the Ceremony of the Books as she reads through the well-worn titles.

    It makes me smile as I think about the bedtime rituals we shared in our home with our sons. There are definitely things I don’t miss about them being young, but I do think fondly on our bedtime customs.

    =)

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